What‘s Bodysex®?
Taking full authorship over your pleasure.
Bodysex® is a designed practice that has been developed by Dr. Betty Dodson in the last 40 years. The Bodysex® method supports women to connect to their bodies and orgasms, to heal shame, intensify pleasure and encourage self-love. Here are the five pillars of the Bodysex® method:
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Sex Education
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Anatomy of the vulva, the clitoral system and the PC muscle
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Women's model of sexual arousal
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Betty's depictions of vulva styles
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Photographed vulvas
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Genital Show and Tell
Mapping your genitals
& naming your vulva
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Vulva Massage
A practice of massaging and touching the vulva in its entirety
3.
Rock'n'Roll Technique
A technique which activates the whole body as we build up arousal
4.
Fantasy
Introducing fantasy as a tool to enhance arousal
5.
"The Art of Womenhood"
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Your Sex Essay
The first step of your bodysex experience is to write your sex essay. We rarely talk about our sexual past without framing our past we can't understand our present or create our future.
Write a few paragraphs answering the following questions:
• Your religious upbringing; parent’s attitude towards sex
• Your first memory of masturbation
• Your first partner sex
• Your current sex life
• Your sex goal - what you desire
Then you'll email the sex essay to me directly and we'll talk through it during our first video chat.
Read through the sex feature articles below. You'll gain a better understanding of the female model of sexual response, try the techniques at home and have your questions ready for our meetings.
Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique
Upgrading Your Masturbation Technique
Penetrating Your Vagina for the First Time
A Woman's Erection Needs 20-30 Minutes of Adequate Clitoral Stimulation
The complex
clitoral system
Women have quite a complex sex organ. The internal clitoris refers to the clitoral gland which has 8,000 nerve endings.
The bulbs of the clitoris contain erectile tissue. We have just as much erectile tissue as men but our erection is internal.
Sex Education
Notice the clitoral legs and bulbs of the clitoris. The bulbs contain erectile tissue - women have just as much erectile tissue as men but our erections are internal. Notice the clitoral shaft which is like a rubber band. Run your finger from side-to-side over your clitoral shaft and notice the feeling.
Urethral Sponge
The urethral sponge referred to as the g-spot sits on top of the vaginal opening. There is not the "one and only" spot in the vagina that feels good for all women.
The urethral sponge fills up with fluid to protect the bladder from the friction of penetrative sex and to add fluidity to the vulva. The urethral sponge contains a couple of tea spoons of prostate-like fluid, that is what we call "female ejaculate".
Female ejaculation is a real response for some women. If you stimulate the urethral sponge and push out with your pelvic floor muscle, a small amount of fluid can be released.
Know that female ejaculation is separate from an orgasm. Betty objects to the focus on female ejaculation because it mimics the male model of sexual response (ejaculation = orgasm). The female model of sexual response is much different and more complex - that's why we can have multiple orgasms.
The pelvic floor muscle circles around the clitoris, your vaginal opening and your anus, like an infinity, and the pc muscle is like a sling. Engaging your pelvic floor muscle will increase the intensity of your orgasms.
Slowly insert your fingers with plenty of lubrication - go 2-3 inches inside - and curl your fingers up toward the ceiling of the vagina and rub softly, you will notice a positive sensation. You can do this yourself by using a curved dildo or angling your dildo up toward the ceiling of your vagina. The positive sensation can travel up and down the urethral sponge.cNotice how the bladder is right behind the urethral sponge and in front of the uterus which is why stimulation can make you feel like you have to urinate.
Vulva Styles
This vulva style has minimal, symmetrical labia and an average sized clitoris. The beauty is the sleekness.
This vulva style has a generous clitoral pearl and symmetrical, slightly dangling inner labia. The beauty is its wavy flow.
This vulva style is sleek and stylized with labia that flow horizontally. The beauty is the bold lines.
This vulva style has fleshy, curvy inner labia and bold oval forms. The beauty is the sense of motion.
This vulva style has a long, tapered clitoral hood and large clitoral glans like a medieval cathedral. The beauty is the drama.
This vulva style has a long clitoral hood with long and heavy beautifully ruffled inner labia. The beauty is the flowing drapery.
This vulva style usually has a very sensitive and arousing hidden spot. One draped labia is attached to the top and one to the lower part. The beauty is the many secret folds and its uniqueness.
This vulva style has an extended clitoral hood hiding the clitoral pearl and valentine shaped inner labia. The beauty is its heart shaped lips.
This vulva style has a bountiful clitoral pearl and sleek inner labia. The beauty is its grand appearance.
Betty figured that in the 80's there was a pron start with a pussy style like this one who made a ton of porn films. That‘s probably why this style was considered the "perfect" style.
This is the rarest vulva style. The outer labia are puffy and the inner labia are sleek - they don't dangle past the outer labia.
This is my vulva. My clitoral hood is quite long and my right labia is longer than my left labia. She kind of looks like a hooded nun - a cross between a classical and gothic vulva.
This vulva style is a perfect example of the renaissance vulva with full, cascading inner labia.
This vulva style is quite symmetrical and petite. Notice the soft pink color in the center of her labia.
This vulva style features symmetrical inner lips - with a beautiful tone of burgundy. Notice how her vaginal opening is exposing parts of her vaginal canal.
This vulva features very full labia that appear like the petals of an orchid. Notice her long clitoral hood.
This vulva style is quite symmetrical and petite. Notice the soft pink color in the center of her labia.
This vulva style features short inner labia that hang inside the outer labia.
This vulva style features sleek inner lips - very art deco - with a prominent vaginal opening. Notice how her vaginal opening is a series of folds like a inner rose bud.
This vulva features long, symmetrical labia with go all the way down and around her vaginal opening. It has classical features with labia that are almost renaissance.
"The more you touch, the more you feel."
Betty Dodson
Vulva massage
Get to know your body by practicing vulva massage every day.
When we touch ourselves on a regular basis, we sensitize our sex organ to stimulation. If you feel too much, you will feel less. If you feel nothing, you will feel more. I can't emphasize enough the importance - throughout this process - of touching your vulva with almond oil and without having an orgasm.
If we take the orgasm off the table, we relax and gain a better understanding of what feels best for us and what parts of our vulva are the most sensitive. There are definite erogenous zones but how a woman likes to be touched is different for each of us.
Below are two guided audio podcasts - the first is 5 minutes of breathing to help you transition from the stress of your day to pleasure. In the second podcast, Carlin Ross takes you through the basics. Play the podcast in the background so she can support you through the process.
Part of your homework is to do a daily vulva massage.
Educational videos
You will get access to 3 educational videos which guide you through the Bodysex® method created under the legacy of Dr. Betty Dodson.
Once you have signed up for one of my offers, you will receive a login to enter the area where the content lives.
FAQs
Why participate in a Bodysex Workshop?
Many women/vulva-owners have been raised to feel shameful about their genitals and sexual desires. Our physical self-worth and pleasure are controlled by social norms that deny our birthright to feeling good about our bodies, having satisfying orgasms, and owning our sexuality. Bodysex is designed to heal shame, enhance self-esteem, and enrich
our orgasms.
Why are workshops done in the nude?
A negative body image is very common among women in our society. We don’t see a range of real body types in television, movies and media. Nudity in the Bodysex circle allows us to see a range of normal bodies. When we are able to spend time in our bodies without clothing, we literally become more comfortable in our own skin. Your registration and attendance at a Bodysex Workshop indicates that you consent to participate in the nude.
How can I prepare myself for the workshop?
Read through the articles and blogs, so you can already start to get more information about the topics of interest to you.
Who may attend Bodysex Workshops?
Adult women/vulva-havers of any age or sexual orientation are welcome. As long as you have a vulva/vagina, Bodysex is for you. You’re welcome no matter your sex at birth, age, sexual orientation, race, or country of origin. Please reach out to us if you are unclear about what this means, unsure if you will feel safe enough or simply have questions.
Can I attend if I’m pregnant? Of course!
What about if I’m post-menopausal? Absolutely!
What if I have my period?
No problem. You can use a tampon, menstrual cup, or a piece of natural sea sponge during Genital Show & Tell and Erotic Recess. Some women even choose to free bleed onto a towel. Bleeding is a natural part of being a woman and there is no shame in it.
What if I have a yeast, bladder, or other infection?
No problem. You are welcome to participate. Just use some over-the-counter or other treatment before attending. Every participant has their own supplies and equipment so you will not be sharing.
What if I can't orgasm?
If you orgasm, great. If you don't, that's ok too. Orgasm is NOT the goal. We're here to heal body shame, overcome sexual guilt and experience true sisterhood. There's no agenda and no expectations.
What should I bring?
Everything that you need for the workshop, including water and snacks, will be provided. However, feel free to bring anything special that you might want, such as a preferred snack food or a favorite sex toy. If you have your own Magic Wand and Betty’s Barbell, feel free to bring them as well. You can bring some warm socks and a loose shawl.
What do I need for a virtual workshop?
To practice Betty's Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique, you'll need lubricant, a dildo (we prefer Betty's Barbell), and a vibrator.
If you hate vibrators, you can use your hand.
You can use any sort of clean oil as a lubricant (almond, coconut, jojoba or even olive oil in a pinch). We prefer almond oil. And you can use a vibrator you have or pick up a magic wand on amazon. Here are links to both:
Almond Oil
Betty's Barbell
Hitachi Magic Wand
Can I keep the Magic Wand and Betty’s Barbell?
These items are not included in the workshops. In some of the retreats a Barbell is included in the price but only if specifically written in the retreats description.
Can I bring my own Betty’s Barbell and wand?
Yes. If you've already purchased Betty’s Barbell and the Magic Wand, you can bring them with you to the workshop.
Can I bring something to eat?
Of course. Water and light snacks are provided, usually fruit, cheese, crackers and chocolate.
What is your refund policy if I register but cannot attend?
The paid deposit is non-refundable
Remaining Balance
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Remaining balance is due 40 days before the retreat start date.
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If paid at the time of booking, a full refund of the remaining balance is available up to 40 days before your retreat start date.
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If you cancel 0-39 days before your retreat start date remaining balance is not refundable.
If you have any other questions send us an email.