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  • Anna Scheer

Why Sex Education Should Begin in Kindergarten

Imagine a world where a simple "no" is met with gratitude. A world where people know how to set their boundaries and they are respected, understood, and celebrated. It might sound like a far-off utopia, but what if I told you it's entirely within our grasp? Welcome to the transformative power of sex education, starting from navigating consent and boundaries.

Think about it for a moment. How different would our lives have been if we were equipped with the confidence to assert ourselves with a resounding "no" when needed, and the enthusiasm to shout a passionate "yes" when we truly meant it? Such simple tools could have spared us so much unnecessary pain and trauma.

Now, let's delve deeper into this notion. Imagine you lie in bed with your partner or lover. Your partner starts caressing a region of your body. You don't enjoy the touch and tell your partner openly that you don't enjoy the touch. Picture this as a response: your partner thanking you for articulating your boundaries. It may seem surreal in a society where saying "no" often feels like an insult or even a taboo. Yet, at its core, a "no" is an act of self-care, a clear communication of personal limits. And when we understand and respect these boundaries in others, trust blossoms naturally. And we may actually get what we want!

To put it plainly: a "no" builds trust because it signals that someone can take care of themselves. It's a powerful concept, isn't it? But let's not stop there. Let's explore how "no" can elicit a "thank you," and why consent is not only crucial but undeniably sexy.

Consider those moments where we assume consent instead of actively seeking it. What if we took the time to check in with our partners and ensure mutual enjoyment? Consent, after all, lies at the heart of healthy relationships. So rather than assuming and doing, to actually ask our partner and check in with ourselves if what is happening is enjoyable to them and to us. What if it was normalised to ask what needs, wishes and mood is st that specific moment before falling back into routines. that don't serve no-one.

"That's what we like to do" versus "How do you feel today and what can I do to make you feel even better". This can be a huge game changer for getting exactly what we want and exploring your ever-changing desires of your partner by being fully present in the uniqueness of the moment.

But how do we introduce such profound concepts to kindergarteners? It's simpler than you might think. Children inherently know their likes and dislikes. So, imagine a classroom where they're encouraged to practice saying "no" to various scenarios, receiving a heartfelt "thank you" in return. This exercise isn't just about understanding boundaries; it's about honoring and appreciating them. Through these interactions, children begin to discern the difference between a strong, confident "no" and a hesitant one that might actually mean "yes." By recognizing these bodily cues, they lay the foundation for empowered decision-making.

Why is this early education so crucial? Because it equips us with the tools to recognise and assert boundaries from a young age. It instills confidence, resilience, and a deep respect for personal autonomy. After all, the more attuned we are to our own "no," the easier it becomes to honor it in every aspect of our lives.

In conclusion, sex education isn't just for adults and doesn't only cover the science about reproductive biology or avoiding STIs. It's about cultivating a culture of respect, empathy, and consent from the very beginning. By starting in kindergarten, we pave the way for a future where every "no" is met with understanding, every "yes" is celebrated, and trust becomes the cornerstone of our relationships. So, let's empower ourselves and others with a single word: "no" and a "Thank you for taking care of your boundaries and making it clear that I can trust you for taking care for yourself!"


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